Replacement child
A replacement child is a child conceived by parents to replace an older dead sibling. He or she is usually of the same sex as the child they replaced. Often, they are given the same name. The replacement child provides consolation to the parents for the loss of the earlier child.[1] It is also frequently believed they are a reincarnation of the lost child.[1] As a result a replacement child represents the hopes and dreams parents had for the dead child.[1]
History
The replacement child or replacement child syndrome became popular in periods of high infant mortality.[1] But it continues in modern times in some places. In some religions and cultures, it was bad luck to mention a dead child's name.[2] Even among European royal families, a dead child was often referred to by his or her title and not their name. Among the replacement children of Holocaust survivors the names of the dead were often not spoken of.[3] The name was memorialized in the replacement child (because they were alive, the name could be used).[2]
In early modern Europe, the name given a child was supposed to make them like the person they were named for.[4] In many cases, the name given a child was an attempt to recreate the lost child (or ancestor).[4] The grief the family felt over the dead child was made better by naming the child after the lost child. This shows a belief that dead spirits were present among the living.[4] In Renaissance Italy, the belief was that a child was born into the identity given him or her by his family.[4] The modern idea that a person creates their own fate did not exist in earlier times.[4]
Philippe Airès's L'Enfant et la vie familiale sous 'Ancien Regime (The Child and Family Life in France before the Revolution), was published in 1960. He believed that before the 18th century, the French had no real concept of children.[5] They were seen as miniature adults and were often dressed like adults. Since parents knew many of their children would not survive, parents did not invest in their children emotionally.[5]
Famous replacement children
- Vincent van Gogh was a replacement child.[6] He was born a year after the death of his brother, also named Vincent.[6] He even had the same birthday.[6] Living at the church rectory, Vincent walked past the grave of his dead brother every day.
- Richard I of England was originally not in line to become King of England. This is because he was the third son. But he was a replacement child.[7]
- Napoléon III of France was a replacement child.[8] His older brother, Napoléon Charles Bonaparte, died at age four.[9]
- Ludwig van Beethoven was also a replacement child.[8] He was the second born son. He was one of the three children out of seven who survived infancy.
The heir and the spare
In history, it has long been a practice for an aristocratic wife to provide an "heir and a spare".[10] That means an heir to continue the family line and a spare in case the heir died too young. In Royal families, one spare was the minimum. When child mortality rates were high, more was considered even better to secure the throne.[10] Queen Victoria had nine children. George III had thirteen.[10] These children had different names, but the concept was and is the same. The difference between early heirs and spares and the modern practice is that today, a female can inherit the throne.[10]
References
- ↑ 1.0 1.1 1.2 1.3 Matthew von Unwert, Freud's Requiem: Mourning, Memory, and the Invisible History of a Summer Walk (London: Continuum, 2006), p. 153
- ↑ 2.0 2.1 Sofia Kotilainen, 'An inherited name as the foundation of a person's identity: How the memory of a dead person lived on in the names of his or her descendants', Thanatos, Vol 1, No. 1 (2012), p. 11
- ↑ Leon Anisfeld; Arnold D. Richards, 'The Replacement Child: Variations on a Theme in History and Psychoanalysis', Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, Vol. 55 (2000), pp. 301–318
- ↑ 4.0 4.1 4.2 4.3 4.4 Edward Muir, Ritual in Early Modern Europe (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2005), pp. 24–25
- ↑ 5.0 5.1 Anne Jacobson Schutte, By Force and Fear: Taking and Breaking Monastic Vows in Early Modern Europe (Ithaca, NY: Cornell University Press, 2011), p. 82
- ↑ 6.0 6.1 6.2 L. Anisfeld; A. D. Richards, 'The Replacement Child: Variations on a Theme in History and Psychoanalysis', Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, Vol. 55 (2000),pp. 301-318
- ↑ Adam Taylor (8 September 2014). ‘A spare to the heir’: The weirdness of being a royal sibling. https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/worldviews/wp/2014/09/08/a-spare-to-the-heir-the-weirdness-of-being-a-royal-sibling/. Retrieved 19 October 2014.
- ↑ 8.0 8.1 Edges of Experience: Memory and Emergence : Proceedings of the 16th International Congress for Analytical Psychology, ed. Lyn Cowan (Einsiedeln Switzerland: Daimon, 2006), p. 786
- ↑ Henry Walter De Puy, Louis Napoleon and the Bonaparte Family: Comprising a Memoir of Their (New York: C.M. Saxton, 1859), p. 60
- ↑ 10.0 10.1 10.2 10.3 Kate Williams (8 September 2014). Royal baby: Why does the 'spare heir' matter?. http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/08/world/europe/royal-spare-heir/. Retrieved 19 October 2014.
Other websites
- The Replacement Child: In Search of Self, Psychology Today
- I'm a replacement child
- Beaten but Unbowed (Waking from the nightmare of abuse) Karen Braysher a true account of a Replacement Child for her 13 month older Thalidomide sister who was institutalised, although expected to die in infancy. Available on Amazon